McShayn’s Love Thread: The true effects of pornography on relationships


Pornography and its consumption is as real and commonplace in Nigeria as the sun shining bright and hot as these words are being threaded together.

There’s no point still trying to live in denial. We can all cut the crap now.

According to Google stats, in 2014, the popularity of Nigerian searches for pornography, as compared to other searches, on a scale of 0 to 100 was above 80.

In December 2016, Pornhub, the site with possibly the vastest collection of xxx videos, released their annual statistics and it showed that Nigeria leads in Africa for consumption of pornography on mobile.

Hey, even our own dedicated sex page, Hot Pulse gets a whole lot of views daily than almost all other categories.

These are just statements of facts, not a judgement of adults’ sexual behaviours and preferences. Nope.

It only proves that all types of people from different age grades and walks of life love to view adult content.

Single men and women have no problem with it. People in relationships watch, and married people also indulge.

While single people could have some sort of ‘free pass’, things are a little more complicated for those in relationships and marriages.

There are only few people who have no qualms with their partner viewing pornograhic content, many are flat out against the idea.

And this is not without reason. According to Psychology Today, porn also has a way of making people objectify their partners, it creates unrealistic expectations and ideas and most worryingly, it could become an addiction.

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Everyone who has watched at least 10 minutes of a porn flick knows how exaggerated the actions are. From the loud moans, well sculpted physiques of the actors, to the time each round of sex takes.

Getting too stuck up in that world surely has an effect one’s relationship if you are hoping to replicate those things in your sex life with your partner.

And even though it is usually said that not every addiction is a bad thing, surely that can’t be in reference to pornography, especially when you have a partner to whom you owe your loyalty.

Viewing sexually-explicit content while in a relationship is placed by many people in the same category as literally sleeping with other people, and so it is hard to imagine this addiction ending anywhere else than in an amicable breakup at best.

In worse circumstances, you could be called out on social media as a fuckboy on top of losing your partner in an ugly, embarrassing breakup.

It is obvious that public opinion is against porn and its consumption especially by people in relationships, but there is evidence that it still has an exalted place in some relationships, and some married partners enjoy pornographic materials separately, and even together regardless of the apparent disadvantages.

We may never truly understand why, but one logical explanation for this is the inherent differences in human behaviour. One man’s meat is another’s poison… and as they say, different strokes for different folks.

In an article published on Women’s Health Magazine [Online] in 2014, it is said that viewing porn as a couple could actually be advantageous to your love life as it could lead to a better sexual experience between partners, it could inspire you to be more vocal in bed about your needs, it could also help you discover your partner’s sexual fantasies among other advantages.

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